Appropriate Age for Stripping

Many high school and college students message me about getting into the male stripping industry, wondering if they meet the appropriate age requirements. That's understandable, since the prospects of money and women sounds great to any young man. I've dedicated a section to it in my book, but will expand more here.

To get started, I've asked booking agents from three different entertainment companies their opinions. Keep in mind that these agents book strippers for private parties, not clubs or revues. Here's what they had to say:

Agent #1:

I usually prefer the guys to be 25 or older. Maybe I'll hire a 21-year-old if he acts really mature and responsible, but that's rare. More often than not, the young guys cause the most problems and get the most complaints. They are usually late, don't take the job seriously, or treat this gig like it's their personal hook-up service. 

The sweet spot is around 30 or so. These guys are more mature and responsible, and treat this profession like a business with a focus on earning money and providing good customer service. They're also at that age where they're attractive to both the older and younger crowds.

Agent #2:

I don't get involved with them that young. I feel like they are children still. My limit is 21, but usually it's 25 and up. They have more responsibility.

Agent #3 (female agent):

Golden Boy at age 22.

We've tried hiring a few young guys at the 21 and 22 age range, but it never works out. They don't know how to talk to customers very well, which is something that comes from experience. 

Many women don't like younger men so much anyways. We can't send a 21-year-old guy to a group of ladies in their 40's. He'd remind them that he's their son's age, and that's not attractive for them. 

For the record, Golden Boy (who appeared in Critiquing Applicants Part 2) applied at our agency, and we decided to give him a shot. He was horrible at returning messages and phone calls. He flaked out for training at a bachelorette party at the last minute -- after we arranged a dancer to train him -- then he called and asked us about rescheduling for the next weekend. Very unprofessional! That kinda behavior this early on is a sure sign of worse things to come from him. Next!

So there you have it. Around 25 to 35 is probably the prime age for stripping. You might have a shot at 21 if you meet all the requirements, but don't count on reaping in all the work from the start. And for you guys that are 18 and 19, you can always work as a go-go dancer for the alternative scene. Some of those establishments don't mind younger applicants.

Topless Only

I got this letter in my inbox recently:

So I was always interested in making some quick cash stripping. 

But I cannot do 100% full stripping. Only topless for reasons beyond. I don't want to take off my shorts. 

What would be the disadvantages of only doing topless? Less money? 

Dion's response: The disadvantage would be that you wouldn't make ANY money whatsoever.

Women pay at least $200 an hour for a male stripper to show up, strip down to a thong, and put on an entertaining performance. Leaving on the shorts opens up a barrage of complaints.

In this line of work, men have two choices: strip down to a thong, or down to nothing at all. It's not like female stripping where you can opt out of full nudity by keeping the bottoms or the top on for less money.

Female customers expect a man to show up in a thong. It's part of the act!

If you're hesitant about taking off the shorts, I have some advice for you:

Find another job.

I'm not saying this out of spite or sarcasm. I'm just giving you a realistic perspective. Here are some analogies of what you're saying.

"I want to be a chef, but I don't want to cook anything."

I guess you could prepare salads or microwave food, but you're severely limiting your menu options, and customers will go elsewhere for more offerings.

"I want to be a plumber, but I don't want to fix toilets or sinks."

Maybe you can fix baths or showers, but you won't get as much work, and you're forgetting what the title plumber means.

"I want to babysit, but I don't feed kids or change diapers."

That defeats the purpose of even trying to become a babysit then.

My point is that you're basically telling a prospective employer that you want the job, but you'll only do half the work of the other employees. Imagine how ridiculous that makes you sound. You're not exactly making yourself appealing.

There are plenty of guys out there who are charismatic, look great, and willing to strip down to a thong on a moment's notice. They're the competition, and you're entering without meeting the requirements.

Now this is speculation, but I gather you don't want to strip beyond shorts because you feel uncomfortable about something. Maybe your thighs are too skinny, your ass is hairy, or you're concerned about your penis size.

I have some bad news for you.

If you're insecure about exposing yourself, then this is the wrong line of work. The banana hammock doesn't leave much to the imagination, and some girls will even want you to take that off. They won't react too kindly when refuse to strip beyond shorts.

Keeping your shorts on is fine, but not in this line of work. if you want to dance in front of a crowd of girls while wearing shorts, then do so at a beach or pool party. Just don't expect women to fork out $200 an hour for it.

Asian Male Strippers

Over the past few years, I have received many e-mails from Asian guys wanting to know if it's possible for them to become male strippers, especially in Western countries like the U.S.A., Canada, or the U.K. For example, here's an excerpt from one e-mail:

"My biggest concern is that there is no market for Asian male strippers. The media portrays Asian American males poorly and constructs insidious stereotypes that often times make Asian men not as desirable as my white counterparts. It is just a part of the world that we live in and is important for me to acknowledge it if I ever do pursue stripping."

Regardless of whether or not the media portrays Asian males in a negative light, I take issue with this message. It reeks of self-defeat. It automatically assumes a negative outcome from the start. Furthermore, it places a negative perception on what others think of you.

I'm a half-Asian living in the rural South. Some of the locals in my town assume I'm full Asian. That being said, I have experienced derogatory comments and stereotypes before. Do I feel belittled because of it? No. That's because I don't box myself into such a stereotype. Doing so is the easy way out.

In college, I worked out with a black guy who shared a self-defeatist attitude regarding his ethnicity. He complained about how white people always gave him "funny looks" and stereotyped him because he was black. I wondered why he came to such an outrageous conclusion. It didn't take long to find out.

One day, he forgot to bring his student I.D. card to the gym, which was required to gain access to the facility. The employee behind the desk refused to grant him access. My workout partner immediately called the employee a "racist" and launched into a tirade of curses and threats. The gym employee called the police on him. I tried to intervene, but my workout partner would not listen to me. "These muthafuckas are racist!" he yelled. The police escorted him out of the gym and told him never to come back.

Without realizing it, this guy molded himself into the very stereotype that he accused people of labeling him as. People didn't hate him beforehand, but he assumed they did because of his skin color, and his negative attitude inadvertently infected everyone around him as a result.

So for you Asian guys who want to be male strippers, the same applies. You become the stereotype you want to avoid when you assume that the industry and the customers will reject you based on the fact that you're an Asian. Some of you guys talk yourself out of even trying by assuming the outcome will be bad. That's a horrible outlook on life. If I walked into my shows with that mentality, the cynicism would seep into the audience and prove detrimental to my performance.

If an employer or customer does reject you, it's more likely due to a lack of attraction rather than ethnicity.

While it's true that there's an ethnic void of male Asians in the industry, in actuality, few Asian men apply for the job. There's no racist gatekeeper in the industry barring Asian men from entering. The media isn't telling these booking companies not to hire Asian males. In fact, all of my agents expressed eagerness when they learned I was half Asian, because more diversity broadens their roster of talent. They love having a larger selection of products to offer customers.

Now there are customers who make requests based on ethnicity. Black girls tend to ask for black guys. White girls tend to asks for white guys. Many companies narrow down customer requests by white or black guys. That doesn't mean other races are left out. If you're Asian, you'll most likely get sent to white parties. Hispanics get sent to both white and black parties respectively. Everyone's tastes differs. I've stripped for black girls who only like white guys, and white girls who like Asians.

Some customers do get specific about their ethnicity. Yet, you cannot help this fact, so don't even dwell on it. Your primary goal should focus on increasing your attractiveness, talent, and charisma. The more you increase these areas, the more attractive you become to a broader audience.

Many Asian guys who message me also include pics, and they tend to have the right appearance for the job, but the wrong attitude. Stop jinxing yourself. Your race should never be a burden on your decisions in life.

Moreover, blaming your ethnicity when things don't go your way is the most ignorant and pathetic way to cope with failure. People do this to shift the blame away from them and pin it on something else (i.e. racist people, media, society, etc.). Stop blaming others, accept responsibility and do something about it.

In the end, you shape your destiny. Not your ethnicity, not the media, and not society.

Chapter 5: Types of Male Stripping

*Note: The following chapter is an excerpt from my book, "Behind the G-String: Dion's Guide to Becoming a Male Stripper" that is available here.  


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There are several different branches of male stripping. While they all involve dancing and taking off your clothes, there are fundamental differences. Let’s examine the pros and cons of each type and see which one best suits you.

Private party

The male stripper travels to the clients’ party location and performs. This can be a hotel room, a residence, condo, club, or bar. Most of these parties fall into the category of bachelorette parties and birthday parties.

These performances rely more on interaction with the customers than a choreographed dance routine. The majority of male strippers perform at private parties. The stripper performs alone for a group of females.

Pros: Good money. More personal time for the crowd. Easier to manage the performance due to a smaller crowd. The performance usually only lasts around an hour. Sometimes the customers offer you food and drink, or they invite you to go out with them afterwards. Guaranteed good money for the stripper just for showing up. Performing alone means no competition for tips. No waiting for your turn to perform. Easier to work incognito. Fairly easy to break into compared to the other types of stripping.

Cons: Travel required. Sometimes you lose the profits at the gas pump. Solo act means you’re all alone when things go bad; it also means that you have to work the crowd on your own. Work schedule is very sporadic. Seldom repeat customers.

Strip Club

The male stripper performs at a designated strip club on stage. He has a set work schedule. In most scenarios, his act involves a choreographed routine followed by crowd interaction both on and off the stage. Because of the dance routine, most strip clubs require an audition. The movie Magic Mike depicts a realistic example of male strip club work.

A male stripper who works at the strip club also needs several costumes, since the whole dance act can cover several different themes.

Pros: Set work schedule. Repeat customers. Coworkers and employer can assist you when things go bad. Sometimes an emcee helps you work the crowd. The only travel required is the club. Other strippers can provide help and insights about the job. The staff can kick out the obnoxious customers.

Cons: You compete with your coworkers for tips. Repeat customers might include crazy people who stalk you. Longer work hours. Slow nights result in less money. Gossip regarding you and your coworkers spreads worse than STDs. Auditions make the selection process more difficult.

Regular Dance Club

A male stripper at a regular dance club is there to augment the atmosphere and provide customers with extra eye candy. People can tip him, but he’s not the center of attention. Gay clubs tend to hire male strippers for this purpose. Skinny guys are eligible for this job.

Pros: Set work schedule. Men are rumored to tip more. Get paid to go clubbin’ all night, free drinks usually included! Repeat customers. The gay clubs are the perfect place if you like getting groped by other men. Easiest job to get for a male stripping gig as the requirement level is the lowest. Skinny guys can apply here and do very well.

Cons: Limited money. Dancing the entire night at the same club gets old fast. A bad place to be if you hate getting groped by other men. No room to improve because you’re really just there to be part of the scenery. Someone in your town may recognize you. You get unwanted solicitations for sex a lot.

Male Revue

A specialized event where male strippers travel to perform. The location can be a bar, club, large venue, auditorium, concert hall, or wherever you can cram a bunch of excited women. The stripping act is similar to the male strip club, except male revues always involve travel. An organizer rounds up male strippers and sends them out to these locations.

Pros: Some establishments pay very well for male revues, and a large crowd can bring in a flood of money. Sometimes there are some very horny women. You have other male strippers working with you to assist with the crowd. You can keep a low profile from your job, family, and friends if you’re away from home.

Cons: Crowd size and participation are hit or miss depending on the location. If the crowd is small, kiss your earnings goodbye. Some women at male revues are overly aggressive. The staff at these establishments aren’t usually very helpful. Male strippers often incur the travel expenses themselves.  

Chippendale (or similar touring troupe)

The top tier of male stripping. Unlike the other types of stripping, these guys get a salary along with paid travel and accommodations. They work for it by rehearsing, touring, and staying in top shape. Entry into the Chippendales is highly competitive since there are usually only 24 Chippendales in the world at a given time.

Pros: Steady salary. Set work schedule. Travel. Paid hotel and food expenses if you’re on tour. Huge fan base. Easy access to sexy women. Work with the other guys as a team. Chippendale name is famous worldwide.

Cons: Large workload. Constant rehearsals and touring. Fierce competition means that you’ll have a better chance at winning the lottery than getting this gig. Life on the road can be strenuous. Aggressive women. Less flexibility regarding your other plans in life. Once again, you need to be the best of the best to land this job.

The Black Male Stripper Circuit

A serious business opportunity for black male strippers performing for a black female audience. The ladies usually come to see these performances out of feminine desire and eroticism rather than the celebration of a special occasion. These ladies may be dedicated fans or groupies, traveling from afar to see their favorite male strippers.

Pros:  A serious cash cow opportunity. A legion of fans. Celebrity treatment.

Cons: Fierce competition. Requires an excessive amount of performing talent. You must be black.

Summary

Just because there are several different types of male stripping out there doesn’t mean you have to stick with only one. You can work at a male strip club, do private parties, and travel around for male revues at the same time if you’re ambitious.

Personally, I enjoy private parties the most. They offer quick and easy money for an hour-long performance, along with a flexible work schedule. Plus, I prefer smaller crowds. I own a home and have a full-time job, so the prospect of touring doesn’t appeal to me. 

Choose whichever type of stripping suits your abilities and lifestyle. If you like to travel, join a touring male revue group or the Chippendales (if you can). If you like to stay near your home, work at private parties. If you just like to get laid and earn money, pick and choose any of the above.

For future reference, most of this book will focus on private party stripping unless noted otherwise, because private party male strippers make up the bulk of the industry. 


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Male Strippers & Muscularity

Hi,

I just stumbled onto your blog, and while male stripping isn't a subject in which I have a keen interest, a question does come to mind.  It is whether all (or most all) male strippers are the muscle-bound guys I always see, and if so why?

I'm pretty familiar with what guys look for in women, and it's amazingly diverse.  Some like 'em fat, others thin, and so on.  Three guys entering the same brothel will invariably happily choose three different providers simply because their tastes are different.  True, female strippers normally conform to conventional average standards of sex appeal, but even female strippers vary a lot.  I remember one super fat one (who went by Eartha Quake) who was quite popular.  More to the point, while most female strippers are in some kind of shape (dancing is good exercise) few give the kind of evidence of serious gym sessions that male strippers do.

I'm also reasonably familiar with women's tastes (although of course no male can ever fully understand these) and they are diverse too.  Specifically, some women aren't attracted to the muscle-bound stripper physique but rather prefer the skinny rock star look or on occasion even the fat, bald accountant look.

Thus I wonder if my impression of male strippers all having to conform to the same standards of muscle-bound attractiveness is true, and if so why.

If true, my total guess is that the explanation lies in the much smaller market for male than female strippers.  That is, standards of attractiveness may be more lax for females simply because there is a greater demand for them and the market must compromise, whereas the lower demand for male strippers may raise the standards for the men in the occupation.

However, I also wonder if maybe prejudice is operating--even male prejudice.  That is, I suspect that men more than women affirm the muscle-bound physique, so maybe men are setting the standards for male strippers?  If so, this would help explain why most of your offers for side work come from gay men rather than women.


Thanks,

Ken  

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My response:


Male strippers tend to be muscular because the degree of muscularity has a strong association with testosterone, the male hormone. Therefore, society associates big muscles with masculinity. Some examples of this include super heroes from Marvel and DC comics; all the male heroes have a bodybuilder's physique. Athletes exemplify masculinity, and society glorifies them. The same trait applies to male strippers. When customers want to hire a man to take his clothes off, they want someone who represents the epitome of masculinity with muscularity added in the package.

It's true that what men look for in women is quite diverse, but the same applies to the other side of the coin. Most men look for feminine traits in female strippers, such as breasts and hips, rather than muscularity and independence. Having sexy breasts or curvy hips don't require extensive training sessions at the gym at all. In fact, most female strippers can get away by showing off their femininity while being overweight, thin, etc.

You make a good point about the high standards for male strippers. There is a much lower demand for male strippers, although the popularity of male strippers has been on a steady rise during the last two decades. The low demand results in fierce competition where the better male gets more work based on his looks. In this case, muscularity makes up a large portion of how the man looks besides his face, so it's very important to have a decent body.

Men often place more emphasis on having a muscular physique, but that does not affirm the standards of male strippers. The women, or customers rather, choose the standards, and they often choose the guy with a muscular physique. If the customer preferred someone skinnier or fatter, then the skinnier or fatter guy would get the job... But that rarely occurs, otherwise just about every skinny or overweight guy would be spilling into the industry. Keep in mind that the customers are women in my case, and I'm not covering what the gay male audience wants.

Some women may say that they do not prefer muscles, but they often hire a muscular man as their stripper. Whenever I go to parties, I see posters of muscular men tacked up on the walls. Companies market muscular men to women all the time. Next time you're at the book store, pick up a romance novel and look at the cover. You often seen a feminine woman cradled against a muscular man. Target audience? Female readers. So females affirm the standards of muscularity in a more subtle way.

Another point you brought up is the "side work," often referred to as "gay-4-pay" in the industry. Exactly as you imply, the side work often comes from male customers, or gay male customers. It's a simple concept really. Gay men act like straight men: they hire out of sexual desire, hence the side work. You very rarely ever hear of women buying prostitutes to satisfy their sexual urges. If a woman wants sex from me, she usually expects to get it for free. Another example, if you want to see a female stripper take off more clothes, then you pay her more money. Most of my female customers would find it absurd to pay more money for me to take my thong off, and even more-so to charge for side work. Why? Because they're often the gatekeepers to sex. It is difficult to reverse that concept overnight. That's why male strippers and female strippers are quite different.

Updated FAQ

I updated the FAQ page. You can also click the navigational bar at the top of the page to access all of my frequently asked questions. I recommend that all new readers check it out, especially those who want to become male strippers.

Below are some of the newer questions:

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Q: What do you plan to do when you get old and ugly?

A:  Set new goals and reach them. Read more. Vacation. Indulge my hobbies. My happiness does not revolve around looking young and getting laid.

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 Q: You write about hooking up with bachelorettes. It's your responsibility to stop them from cheating. Why would you do such a thing?

A: Why would they do such a thing? It's their responsibility not to cheat. Besides, most of these girls are the sexual aggressors. My job is to show up, strip, and give the girls a good time; not babysit someone's morality.

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Q:  What kind of women do male strippers like? (example: bigger, petite, fit, etc.)

A:   It really depends on the male stripper. Some guys like bigger girls. Some like petite. Others like fitness models. The occupation does not determine one's personal tastes.

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Q:  When is your book on male stripping going to come out?

A:  I'm projecting sometime in that latter part of 2014. I will definitely post more details and updates as progress comes along.

I Wanna Be A Male Stripper! (Part 1)

On average, I get about a dozen e-mails a week from guys who want to get into this industry. Because so many of the e-mails are similar in nature, I decided to share them in an effort to answer any future questions that you aspiring male strippers out there might have.

The first e-mail is by Andres:

Hello Dion,
Thank you for your willingness to help answer questions. I am 25, 5'11, hispanic male, currently 151 lbs, slim body with good definition.
My questions to you are:
What would you recommend would be an ideal body weight?
Is there such thing as skinny male strippers? What is their success rate?
What is some advice you would give to first time strippers?
Where did you resort to for dance moves? Do you have an online link you recommend?
Do you shave or wax?
How many costumes do I need? Do you have a website you would recommend?
What are strip clubs looking for when hiring male strippers?
Is a dick pump necessary?
How was your first stripping experience at a club?
Thanks

Dear Andres: 

I suggest that you gain about twenty pounds of muscle. That alone will not get you work though. I have not taken in other factors such as your looks, charisma, professionalism, common sense, and personality. But being too skinny can be a problem because your competition may be a guy who is 5'11 and 195 lbs. with good definition. He's going to get the work. You're not.

There are skinny male strippers though. Once again, think of the competition. You may get the job, but the girls will most likely pick the guy who looks like he weighs a bit more than the average girl at the party.

I don't really have any recommendations for dance moves. It's all about your own style really. Just as comedians have to make their own jokes, male strippers have to make their own routines.

I shave. Never wax. I did that once and got so many ingrown hairs from it.

As far as costumes are concerned, I wrote a whole section on costumes in the guide section of my site.  

I have never used a dick pump before. But now that you mentioned it, perhaps you can find a muscle suit that comes with a dick pump. Then you would have the ideal weight, the dick pump, and a costume all in one! 

My next story will go into detail about my first stripping experience at a club.

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The next e-mail is from Pieter:

Good day Dion

Can you give me some advice?
Im interested in becoming a male stripper but I dont know the ins and outs or even how to start. Have no experience whatsoever. I could really use some advice.

Looking forward to hear from you

Kind regards
Pieter

Dear Pieter:

I'm interested in becoming an electrical engineer, but I don't know where to start. I have no experience or a degree for the matter. I need advice. I know this is a vague and open-ended question that shows little research and initiative on my part, but requests a long drawn out answer on yours.

In all seriousness, click on the "Guide: Becoming A Male Stripper" tab at the top of the my page. That said, are you going to be too lazy to do all the work and research yourself? Or are you going to ask an agent to do all the work for you?

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And one more from Jake:

Hi, so I was reading your blog and it's really nice all the tips and stuff.

I have a question though, so I know this place that is currently hiring young male strippers with no experience, sounds perfect, only thing is my body is not like Captain America or anything, I've been at the gym for 1 month and there's some definition going on here and there it's all good all pleasant to the eye, I have an athletic figure, I'm real good looking, but I don't have a six pack... So should i apply for the job now? Or wait a few months till I have that amazing body?

Jake

Dear Jake:

I suggest you take yourself over to the place and ask the management to access your body and looks for you. They'll give you an honest opinion.

Here's my opinion though: One month of training ain't shit. I've been training for years before I started stripping, and let me tell you that a few months of training is not going to bring about that crazy transformation.

There is one exception and that is genetics. You may have been blessed with a good body naturally, but even that will only take you so far. Either way, if you think training alone is going to be the answer, then you're wrong.

Like I said, go and apply. See what the management says. You can make it without a six-pack. Yet, there may be a guy working at the club with a six-pack, good looks, and a charming personality, and he's going to get all the money while you're standing there with a dollar bill in your G-string watching him get all the women.

Just because you get the job doesn't mean you'll get the money.

Dion 

Weird E-mails

Here are two e-mails that I didn't really know what to do with (all spelling mistakes were left unchanged):

1st e-mail.
From: Noor
Subject: Stripers

Message:

Hi, i have a question.
How male stripers last so long? I mean how can they last long while there are group of girls blowing their duck off and they dont cum? What do they use??

Thanks with regards.
 
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2nd e-mail.
From: Dj Pendleton-Daniels
Subject: The begining 

Message: 

Hey dion my name is dj and my wife believes i have wat it takes to be a male stripper... Yes i have stripped before but only for forplay. Ik i can do i just need to make my ads show more and get sone betta moves.... Any advice?

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An Uncommon Problem

Here's an interesting e-mail sent in by Drake that touches up on an important and often forgotten about subject:

Hi Dion,

I really enjoy reading your blog. I started as a male stripper a few months ago so your blog is like a guide for me. 

I have one kind of disgusting question for you though and I hope you don't mind my asking. What do you do if you're performing at a show and you get a bad case of the runs and you have to use the toilet? Do you excuse yourself and use the toilet there and continue performing where you left off? Or do you suffer through the rest of the performance and find a bathroom after?  

I had this problem at a performance recently and managed to make it through but I thought I was going to die. Have you had this problem before. Thanks in advance for answering my questions and keep on writing!

Cheers,

Drake

My response: 

I had to admit, I laughed when I read this. Drake brings up an interesting point though. The last thing a male stripper (or any performer) wants is to get the shits before the show. No girl is going to think you're sexy when you excuse yourself for a few minutes to blow up her toilet then return to bare your ass in front of her. Fortunately, I have only encountered this dreadful experience a handful of times throughout a whole decade and I managed to escape unscathed. 

The first time, I felt the sharp pangs of pain in my midsection while driving toward a show. Luckily, I had left early and was only ten minutes down the road from my home at the time. I turned my car back around, went home, did my business and showered. I called the ladies up and told them I was going to be a little late, then resumed my trip without further incident.

Another time, I was still recovering from a horrible bout of food poisoning when I took a Saturday show. I was in pain throughout the whole performance and could only struggle through it with half-hearted effort. I made a false show of enthusiasm and motivation for the crowd on the outside, but on the inside I was in torment counting down the minutes until I could leave. To make matters worse, a beautiful lady there took a fancy to me. She was 26 years old, worked as a teacher, and took care of herself by training at a gym regularly. This girl walked me to my car and the only thing on my mind at the time was how the hell I was going to get the hell out of there without being rude to her. She tried to linger, as though she were expecting to exchange phone numbers and a plan future date. I disappointed her, having more urgent matters to attend to. Of course, when I completely recovered, I regretted that because she seemed like someone I'd like to know better. 

I never had to bomb a toilet at a show or performance. That would be embarrassing. The last thing a girl wants is an ass near her face that is fresh off the toilet. 

One method I use to avoid such a catastrophe is eat a light snack before a performance. My meal would consist of fresh fruit, bread, almonds, or a fresh cut vegetable like a cucumber. I seldom stray from this choice since my body is used to this selection. I advise against eating a heavy meal or something completely different from your normal diet beforehand---wait afterwards. High calorie foods with a lot of grease and fat, such as a thick cheese pizza with greasy meat toppings, should be avoided at all costs; not only do such foods increase the likelihood of an upset bowel movement, but they tend to give the body a more 'bloated' look due to excess sodium. Plus, foods with too much sugar and fat tend to hinder one's ability to maintain muscular definition. 

Overall, eating a light snack before a show has kept the number of shitty incidents down to a minimum throughout my career. So Drake, if you have to go, try to go without the girls' knowledge, but it's best to eat something that your stomach can handle. Don't eat a lot of anything before the show either. When in doubt about your food selection, it's better to be weak from hunger than quivering in pain from the shits. Remember, you can always eat after the show is done.

Male vs. Female Stripping

From: Debi Sens
Subject: male stripper questions!

Message:

Hi, I am not sure if you are still accepting questions or not but I have a few.

Does being a male stripper make you think differently towards women? Like, did you become more mysoginistic? I read some female stripper blogs and a few of them admitted it sort of made them not like men as much?

Also if you can answer this do you think there are many differences of experiences between male and female strippers?

Debbie
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My Response:

I would say that male stripping has made me think a little differently toward women, but with a wiser mindset rather than a negative one. I don't think I have become more misogynistic (though some readers would argue otherwise). Most women at my parties treat me exceptionally well, pay me more than necessary, and overall spoil me. Of course, I see a few women who behave rather ill for being married or engaged, but I have also seen just as many carry a remarkable amount of devotion and respect.
 
Regarding female strippers disliking men as a result of their job, I have also read a few female stripper stories and some of them tend to cast men in a negative role, but that's because those strip clubs where they work tend to attract the seedier types of society. My job proves the contrary. The type of women who hire me tend to be middle to upper class without criminal history or a perverted agenda.  I tend to like most of the female clientele I deal with. I have a lot of fun at my parties and often look forward to working them.

As far as differences between male and female strippers, I think they can be quite similar and different at the same time. In my case, stripping only supplements my income. I have an actual full time job while I just strip on the side for extra cash. Many female strippers tend to focus on stripping as their full time job. Moreover, providing amusement and entertainment remain my top priorities at my show, while turning the crowd on comes as a secondary result. Female strippers sexually stimulate their male audience as a top priority, or least that is my perception. Beyond that, male and female strippers dance to music and strip. 

Overall, I don't feel as though I sacrifice dignity when stripping for a crowd of females, but gain a sense of empowerment instead. Whereas most men have to work hard to physically interact with women, I get to do so with ease while getting paid.

Dion

Male Stripper Questions - Part 25

It's about that time again. Here is another batch of questions I received both from the comments section and e-mails:

1. Could you break down into percentages the amount of parties that a. the women don't touch your junk b. they just have a quick fondle/grope and c. they actually suck or jerk you off?

Keep in mind that these are just rough estimates that I pulled out of my ass. I didn't go through each and every party and break down the numbers. These numbers are also likely to change depending on when you ask me as well.

a. Women who don't touch - 25%
b. Women who fondle/grope - 70%
c. Women who jerk me off or give me a blowjob - 5%

2. Do the women you strip for ever try to play with your ass? (i don't just mean groping cheeks, I mean wanting to look at or play with your butthole and stuff like that)

A few girls have licked or kissed my ass cheeks, and a few girls have placed dollar bills in my butt crack and traced their hands inside of it, but I never had a girl "play with my butthole." I don't think most girls are into the whole ass-play or butthole thing. That's a field more suited for gay guys.

3. Have you ever had any embarrassing accidents/mishaps when performing? (like an accidental popout, getting an accidental boner, or accidentally jizzing?)

I have had accidental pop-outs and boners here and there. Boners happen when I am relaxed and the girls are turning me on. I never accidentally jizz. It takes a lot of effort for me to cum in front of a group of girls for some reason.

4. You're a good writer, but could you try writing some of your experiences in a more descriptive/erotic way (like some of the better stripping/cfnm* stories on literotica)? It'd be great for guys like myself who'd love to know what it's like stripping for groups of women but who are too shy or can't dance or are too ugly/skinny/fat/short to ever be able to try it for themselves. (*CFNM means "clothed female nude male")

Why thank you. Actually, I had a few erotic stripping stories that I wanted to send to Penthouse. I'll be sure to post some of them on here. I have only posted 50% of the interesting bits of my job, and new stuff is happening to me all the time. Keep checking back for updates.

5. How often women actually think you are a cop? Don't they know what it means when a good looking cop shows up at a bachelorette party?

Most of the time, women believe that I'm a cop. More so recently than when I first started. I believe that I had gotten used to the role of the police officer responding to the "noise complaint." When I first began the cop routine, I lacked the confidence and command presence that actual cops had because of nervousness. But I have done this routine so many times now that I sometimes feel like I am a cop showing up to quell the noise violation.

However, some women will know that I'm a male stripper for a variety of reasons. Women with good knowledge of law enforcement tend to see through my act. Other women just know that the formula of police officer and bachelorette party equals a male stripper. Most of the time, it's the bachelorette's friends that give away the ruse by blurting out that a stripper is coming, or they'll giggle and laugh in the background while I perform the cop routine.

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If you have any questions, feel free to e-mail them to me here: sinistralmetal@yahoo.com

Male Stripper Questions - Part 24

I received an e-mail about dancing recently from a guy named Warren, and he asks some good questions. Here it is:

Okay, got a question. Your blog is awesome and very interesting so keep it up!

Before you started out, did you already like/know how to dance? I would say that is the obvious problem with a lot of guys (myself included) who hate the act of dancing unless your goal is to have sex with the girl who is forcing you to dance. Any tips on what your go-to moves are, what moves the girls seem to like the most, etc? Did you learn through observation or watching videos, or are just that wildcard who could do it naturally? My ex liked it when I would put on her little private strip show but the whole time it'd be awkward and I'd act more goofy to play it off easier since I'm no Michael Jackson. I know that confidence is the key to success...but damn, I hate dancing along with a legion of guys.

Also, do any of your moves translate to a normal dance floor?

-Warren

Warren,

I'll start by saying this: I didn't start off as the best dancer either. When I first started stripping, I hardly knew anything about dancing. Most of my performances consisted of grinding against and dry-humping girls. Similar to your situation, dancing served only as a means for me to have physical contact with girls. However, I HAD to learn something when I started stripping, so I started taking actual dance lessons.

The first thing was salsa. Next was tango, waltz, followed by swing. All of these dances require a lot of practice, but once you loosen up and get your timing down, you appear more natural and you can become comfortable enough with dancing to apply your own freestyle at the club. Other than that, join a dancing club where you can practice. I joined a salsa club and that helped me.

Keep in mind that it's not only men who have problems with dancing; most women have limited dancing skills as well. Hell, I'll even take that further and say that most women suck at dancing. They may seem comfortable on the dance floor, but beyond shaking their asses a bit and gyrating their curves, their moves aren't anything special, especially if you know what you're doing.

Ditch the awkwardness and you'll look more graceful. Once you become comfortable with dancing, you'll be able to do it anywhere. Don't be one of those guys who has to load up on alcohol to dance. They're the worst. With the drunk guys around, you won't have to worry about looking foolish while dancing, because these guys are doing all the work for you.

As for my moves at strip shows, I usually dance for as long as I strip. I'll thrust my hips like a belly-dancer while I'm unbuttoning my shirt or pants. Once the clothes are off though, the dancing ends and the body shots begins.

I hope this information helps you. I'm no expert on dancing, and if you want to get good at it, I suggest going to a dance school/academy and take a few classes. You can also watch and learn from some Youtube videos, but an instructor at a dance school can correct your mistakes whereas Youtube cannot. It's good to learn something new in life anyway, and dancing is one of those things that gives you an excuse to have physical contact with a women. I have sure as hell used it for that very reason many many times.

Dion
sinistralmetal@yahoo.com

Male Stripper Questions - Part 23

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Top Sexual Experiences - Part 2

I received an e-mail from Anonymous:

Hey Dion. Love your blog and your stories. Keep it up. Was wondering if you could tell us more sexual experiences. Thanks! Cheers!

Sure. I'll tell 4 experiences that come to mind right now:

- Threesome at a Halloween strip party: I took turns having sex with a girl dressed in a vinyl catwoman costume and a girl wearing a catholic schoolgirl uniform. Unfortunately, I was too drunk to cum. What surprised me though was that I was able to fuck one girl while licking another girl's pussy in a coordinated manner. I never saw these girls again.

- Fetish blonde: I met this lady at a club with a fetish-theme event. She was a bit older than me, and was wearing thigh-high boots, a leather mini-skirt, and a masquerade mask. She took me to her house in her Jaguar where we explored a variety of fetishes before I soaked her face in cum. I never saw this girl again.

- Myspace blonde: I randomly added a hot blonde girl as a friend on Myspace in 2007. She accepted my friend request and wrote me a message that said, "nice hair." A weird message, but I responded, and soon we exchanged numbers. She invited me to her apartment one weekend. No longer than fifteen minutes after I walked through her front door, I laid her spread-eagle on her bed. We had sex 7 times that night. That's my personal record with one girl. I don't know what it was, but we had sexual chemistry. My cock was very sore, and she complained that she could barely walk and sit at work. We had a few sex marathons after that, but I dumped her three weeks later because we had nothing in common besides sex.

- Chilean girl: I stripped for her birthday party. She was licking my crotch, my ass cheeks, and even slid her tongue down my ass crack. I had to see her again, so I called her under the pretense that I left something at her party, and we scheduled a date. She loved facials, titty-fucking, and much more. But beyond sex, we didn't have much in common. I stopped calling her after a month.

How to Spot a Cheating Whore

Here was an interesting question posted by Anonymous regarding the following stories: Secrets That Women Keep

Have you ever regreted sleeping with any girls that you knew were getting married soon or had boyfriends? You know...kinda out of pity/or feeling bad knowing that he is about to marry this cheater/cumdumpster?

I feel bad for the guys who are marrying or dating such girls. However, these guys are a bit too trusting of their girlfriends, especially when these girls exhibit transparent behavior when cheating. I'll list the cheating girl's top 3 tactics below:

3. Girl ignores texts and phone calls - The cheater will do this while she's "having fun." Afterward, she'll return the call and make up some excuse about how "busy" she was. While a man can't expect his significant other to answer at all times, he can expect that such repetitive behavior shows that she has something better to do with her time...unless the guy is clingy and calls too much.

2. "You're jealous/controlling" - Some women have reason to say such a statement. Some men are jealous and controlling for no good reason. But I've noticed that a lot of women who cheat tend to pull out the "you're controlling" card when their boyfriends confront them on their bullshit. Since every reasonable guy wants to avoid the "jealous" and "controlling" label, he'll instantly become defensive. That's what the cheating girl wants, because now that the guy is busy defending himself, she has successfully diverted the attention away from her bad behavior.

Therefore, this accusation becomes a diversion tactic when the cheater has no real explanation to provide.

1. Sweet talk to cover up something bad - This is the number one downfall for most men, and a tactic that is used often.

During one instance, A girl pulled me away from the party and into a bedroom. She gave me a blowjob for about minute until she felt bad and stopped. I didn't know why. She just mumbled an apology to me and left the bedroom. When I went back to the living room, I heard this girl on the phone with her boyfriend telling him how "wonderful" he was, and how she "loved him to pieces." He fell for it. I was surprised myself, because she never told me that she had a boyfriend.


Overall, I feel bad for honest folks who fall for cheaters. It happens a lot, but the warning signs are often there. For those of you dating a possible cheater, but isn't sure, then I hope this list helps.

Long E-mail About a Male Stripper

Hey Dion, I just checked out your blog and its really cool. Just thought that i should let you know. I dont have any questions about your profession yet, but i kinda have a bit of a personal situation going on here and you are the perfect guy to ask for an advice,because you are a male stripper and you know how things work!:))) Hopefully you dont mind my question and I hear back from you:))
First of all my name is Mindy and I am 23 years old. I dont know where in the usa you are at,but I am from Buffalo ,but just moved with my sister to Bensenville, Illinois about 6 months ago.

Alright..long story short..a few months ago I went to a male strip club(it was my sister's birthday) and one of the dancers was really nice to me,he was talking to me so many times that night. I did have a couple of private dances with him and he kissed me on the lips and I mean a french kiss and he said that i turn him on every time.Anyways as i was leaving he told me that i know where to find him and i should go again. 2 months later I went there again and he remembered me. Again he was talking to me a lot, he said that im so cute.Later on that night he came and he grabed my hand and took me to their private room again for a dance and he kissed me again. When the dance was done he just said that i look so good. When i was leaving i went to him to say bye and he told me to ask about him at the door next time Im there and he'll get me in for free.

Anyways he never asked me for my number or anything like that, but he acts like he likes me. I was there twice and each time I got a lot of attention from him and we kissed - twice, and always says how cute I am. I even said to him that he just says that I am cute and I look good,because its his job and he needs to be flirty,but he said that thats not true and he doesnt need to say shi* if he doesnt want to.
I have a promise ring on my ring finger, that looks like an engagement ring, and I dont know if he has seen it and thats the reason why he is not trying to ask me out, or if its just because he is that good of a player and knows how to get me back there:)
By the way me and my boyfriend are taking a break right now and I dont even know why I still wear the ring.

Im so sorry for the long email. Please, let me know what do you think.Im so confused.I feel silly for emailing you,but no one else is going to give me an honest advice. My sister is all so convinced that he likes me and I do think that too,but at the same time I think he is justg having fun and playing around. I know that you know exactly how he thinks and how things work.Should I go there again? and if I go should I be more aggressive with him..I just dont want to ask him out as it looks so desperate:))

Okay, you asked for advice and I'm brutally honest about giving it, so here goes:

I know you like this guy, but he's probably not the type you would want to pursue.

Of course, he's taken an interest in you, but only the same kind of interest that he takes in the other girls he allows in for free. I guarantee that he has at least several lined up. I worked at one club and I used to do the same thing: Get a girl in for free because I wanted to fuck her---the potential list was long.

I'm also willing to bet that he's charming and gregarious too. As far as pursuing something with him, only do so if you don't mind sharing him with a dozen other girls. He *will* cheat on you.

As far as a sexual fling goes, I highly discourage it as well based off the exposure that some of these guys get. For instance, if I really tried to get laid with every opportunity that came my way, then I would've slept with at least 200 girls by now.

About the ring, here are two possibilities: 1.) He has noticed it and doesn't care, because he only wants to screw regardless if you're taken or not; 2.) he hasn't noticed, because he simply doesn't care enough to see if you're single or not. The ring is one of the first things I notice if I have taken an interest in someone.

Another red flag is the fact that he only comments on your looks, because that's all he's after. If he really liked you, then he would pay some heed to your personality. From what you have told me, he hasn't.

I've probably shot myself in the leg by giving this advice, but it's reality. So with that said, would you like to hire me for a party? I'll give you a good discount.

Male Stripping Questions - Part 21

How much longer will you be a male stripper? It seems as if being a male stripper is age limited to younger men. I'm not sure what age one stops stripping. What's next after you stop doing it? John

Not much longer. I work professional job as my main source of income strip for extra money. I'm in the process of getting a new professional job and probably won't have time to strip. Stripping is becoming tiresome anyway. I like having my weekends free after a typical work week, not driving around all night alone.

I'm 29 now, but I think male stripping is more suited for younger men. I have heard of male strippers who were over 30. Some Chippendales perform even beyond 40. If I wanted to continue to strip, then I think I would have another ten years at least. I'm in the best shape of my life now and show no outward signs of aging. But I'm not going to stick around with this job.

Male stripping is not a wise career choice, unless you work as a Chippendale who's great at saving money. You cannot list any great qualifications or work skills due to male stripping on a professional resume. As a private party stripper, work is erratic and inconsistent. Male stripping is more for younger men who are attending college or seeking a second job on the side. I started male stripping in college and it provided me with good money and some of the best times of my life. Yet, there comes a time when one must move on.

I'm in the process of moving on. I'll strip for a little while longer, but there is no more growth for me in the male stripping business. I need something else.

I have several things lined up. In addition to a new job, I'm in the process of working on a manuscript about my experiences as a male stripper. One literary agent already expressed interest. I just need to write down my experiences as a memoir, or consolidate some of the stories on here into a book.

Male Stripping Questions - Part 20

I forgot to answer the last part of Jake's e-mail during my last update. I also received another e-mail regarding male stripper porn videos.

I'll start with Jake's question:

How successful are you at picking up girls? Can you easily get a girl you want? Looking forward to your other advice.

When it comes to single women who share the same interests as I do, then I guess I'm pretty successful. Out of the last five girls I really wanted, I succeeded in getting with all five.

However, I had a much different story when I was younger. Hell, I hardly used to get laid before I became a male stripper.

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Now here was the question about the porn videos:

Hi Dion. Are you familiar with CFNM (clothed female nude male) vidoes on the net? in case you havent they are videos of a male stripper having sex with many women at a party. do you think this is real? Or fake? have you done anything like this?

Yes, I have heard of CFNM. No, these videos are not real in the sense of an authentic male stripper at an actual bachelorette party .

I am very sure that a porn studio sets up these "sex parties" and everyone in the video is tested before having sex. If these videos are selling in the United States, then the porn company has to ensure compliance with Code 2257. Therefore, these videos of the male strippers and the crazy girls fucking them are really just a bunch of porn actors doing their job.

Do you really think that a bunch of girls having fun at a bachelorette (hen) party will allow a camera crew to video tape them blowing a male stripper so everyone on the Internet can see?

Another fake aspect of these videos is the fact that every girl is usually attractive. At a real bachelorette/hen party, there is a large mixture of beautiful, ugly, plain, fat, skinny, average girls.

One last thing: A room full of girls won't have unprotected sex with a male stripper...usually.

To conclude, these male stripper videos are simply just porn. While the videos may resemble some aspects of a male stripping job, they greatly exaggerate the circumstances. The occasional girl who blows the male stripper in reality becomes a frequent room of girls who take turns sucking male-stripper cock in the porn video.

For those with any questions or comments, feel free to e-mail me: sinistralmetal@yahoo.com

Male Stripping Questions - Part 19

Thanks to all you readers out there. You and your e-mails give me motivation to continue this blog. Here's another e-mail.

Hey Dion

Great blog. I envy you and your lifestyle. lol I do have a few questions. Has anyone man wanted to fight you because of jealousy? Like a dude's girl was coming onto you and he got pissed?

How successful are you at picking up girls? Can you easily get a girl you want? Looking forward to your other advice.

Thanks man!

Jake

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I've seen a few jealous guys in my time. For the most part, I don't go out of my way to screw with their girlfriends/wives/crushes, but they find a reason to hate me anyway (though when I was younger I did). Some guys want to fight me; these are usually rednecks. Most of the others guys content themselves to indirectly yelling threats.

Here are a few encounters I had:

1.) 2004 - I performed for a girl's birthday party. There were both college girls and guys present. Most of the guys left as soon as I started stripping. After my performance, three of the girls invited me to go to the clubs afterward. They offered to pay for everything as long as I would drive, so I tagged along. I went to the club and danced with all three girls.

As I was driving the girls back from the clubs, one of the girl's boyfriend called and demanded where she was. She told him that she was with her two friends and "the stripper." He became so enraged that I could hear every word he started screaming to her through the phone. He told her that he was going to kill me as soon as I showed up. She tried to calm him down. He became even angrier.

I told the girl that if he boyfriend put his hands on me, then I would send him to the hospital. I don't know if he heard me or not through the phone, but as soon as I showed up to drop the girls off, he was nowhere in sight. Even worse for him, his girlfriend gave me her phone number.

2.) 2003 - Cowboy bar. A family reserved a section of the bar and wanted me to strip for a lady who was turning forty. Her husband paid me. They wanted me to wear a cowboy outfit.

As soon as I entered the bar, I saw over a hundred people. Most of the men wore cowboy hats, along with some of the girls. My heart sank when I saw the reserved section---it was in plain view of the whole bar.

I began to strip for the birthday lady. Her family and friends treated me well, giving me a substantial tip. They were all kind and generous. I looked out beyond them into the rest of the crowd and saw some young girls smiling at me. One girl beckoned me over with her finger. Another waved a dollar to get my attention. Near them, I saw some cowboys with faces darkened with anger. I stayed in the reserved area.

After the performance, a gigantic cowboy bouncer told me that he was going to escort me out. "A lot of boys in here are jealous 'cause of you gettin' all the attention from the ladies," he said. I looked at the crowd and saw many friendly female faces, but equally as many menacing male faces. The birthday lady's husband offered to walk me out as well. Both of the men accompanied to my car. Without them, I might have had some trouble.

3.) 2007 - College apartment. A mother and father hired me to strip for their daughter's 21st birthday.

Unfortunately, there were college guys in attendance, although most of them vacated the living room as soon as I started my routine. I stripped for the birthday girl in front of her friends, while the parents stayed in the kitchen. The girls seemed to enjoy themselves. They cheered me on as I did push-ups over the birthday girl, burying my crotch into her face with each push-up.

Then, a college boy passed by the living room and said, "If he touches my girl, I'll kick the shit outta him."

I stopped my routine and looked up at him. I noticed he wasn't even looking at me.

"Let me get something straight," I said. "I'm not here to mess with your girl, or try to steal her from you. If she doesn't want me around her, then I go to somebody else. Your insecure attitude will make you to lose her faster than anything I could ever do. And by the way, you won't do shit to me."

The whole room went silent with the exception of the radio. Without a word, the college boy left the room. One girl laughed. I apologized to the whole room for the encounter, but the girls took sides with me. I finished my routine without seeing the college boy again.

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A few more jealous-man incidents have occurred, but I either listed them before or cannot recall them now. Either way, these situations don't happen often. When they do happen, they happen with little to no provocation on my part.

Ironically, I don't recall dealing with any jealous man when I was actually was interacting a little too much with his girl.

Male Stripping Questions - Part 18

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