Monday, January 8, 2018

Interview with a Male Stripper - Australian Series (Part 1)

Recently, I've had a male stripper from Australia contact me willing to share stories. His name is Tommy, and he's a great guy (who looks a helluvah lot better).

Here's an interview he had with another male stripper, who asked to remain anonymous, so he will be referred to as "MS." You can read the whole transcript on Tommy's website (http://goldcoastmalestripper.com), or simply continue reading below:
 

Tom:
When did you start male stripping and why?

MS:
Around 2011/2012. I started because I needed money. I got out of a long term relationship, and I obviously had to pay her out for some things because we lived together. So times were tight, and instead of working in a bar, I turned to male stripping.

Tom:
Do you enjoy male stripping?

MS:
I do, I like to see people enjoying my performance. Its like any job really, you go out, do the best you can and hope everyone enjoy's it.

Tom:
Has your enjoyment of stripping changed from when you first started as opposed to now?

MS:
I was probably more excited when I first started, but now it's more like a job. However I still get the joy out of seeing everyone laughing/smiling when I dance.

Tom:
Can you give us some insight into how girls act when you are dancing?

MS:
Well each situation Is different, some girls act very reserved because they have had a bad experience with male strippers. Other girls act very full on, and can be very 'hands on' with touching and grabbing.

Tom:
What do you get more often? The crazy girls or the reserved girls?

MS:
If the brides 'mum' or 'nan' are there then it's generally more reserved. However when it comes to just the girls, thats when they are more wild.
For me, the ages between 25 - 35 are more reserved, but below AND above those ages the girls tend to be very wild. The ones who have been married for 10/15 years, they get right in to it!

Tom:
What does a male stripper need to be successful in the industry?

MS:
Obviously the body, it's your image, so that's how you sell yourself. But more importantly I would say your personality. You can be the best looking guy in the world, but if you can't hold a conversation, you're not going to get anywhere.

Tom:
Have you seen the film Magic Mike? Whats your opinion on the film? Is it realistic?

MS:
Yeah I've seen it, I don't know what its like in America, but in Australia it's a bit different. I wish I had money thrown at me! The girls in the film seem very intense, but in reality thats not always the case.

Tom:
So what are the differences in stripping here in Australia compared to the film?

MS:
I generally do private jobs, so when I rock up to a hotel/house, everything Is organised (music, payment) before I walk in the door. But if you were to do a stage show that would be more similar.
I'd say the main difference is the money, we don't have tipping in Australia, so the show is all paid up front before I start.

Tom:
There is a scene in the film where 2 male strippers dress up as cops, attend a house party to dance for money, then end up being attacked by a group of males.
Have you had any experiences like this? Any men attack you whilst dancing?


MS:
Yeah, my third week when I first started doing shows. On that night I had 4 shows on then I got a last minute booking for a 5th show. It was a 21st Birthday organised by the mum.
I was only dancing for about 5 minutes and still had about 90% of my costume on, when her boyfriend suddenly got jealous. I got pulled off her and next thing you know punches started to get thrown at me. He was quite drunk so he wasn't very good at hitting me, and then his girlfriend spear tackled him into a group of friends.
His mates then tried to fight me, but I grabbed my stuff and left straight away.

Tom:
Did the organiser tell you before the show there was going to be males attending?

MS:
No, I wasn't Informed. Now I always ask agency's to tell me if there are males at the party. 18th's, 24th's and other big birthday celebrations are generally mixed crowds.

Tom:
What are the most popular types of events you get bookings for?

MS:
I would say Hen's parties are the most popular, 21st's are probably second and after that you have your 'big ones' the 40th's and 50th's where the husband will hire you to dance for his wife.
Divorce parties are getting bigger now, they tend to be absolutely mental.

Tom:
Whats the weirdest event you have been booked for?

MS:
I've danced at an 80th birthday, and I've performed at three baby showers.

Tom:
Baby showers!?! Really?

MS:
Yep! Sunday morning baby showers! We're talking 10AM in the morning. They were all lovely girls, but it was just a weird situation.

Tom:
Haha, tell me more about the 18th birthday parties, what are they like?

MS:
Wild, those ones are very wild. And even the 18 year old guys get really into the show, cheering and having a laugh. I sort of feel like they are learning something also! haha.

Tom:
Have you ever had anyone under 18 at a booking before?

MS:
Yes I have, I always ask before hand, or If I think somebody looks under 18 I'll ask them. And if it's ok with everyone in the room, I will still perform, but only down to a G string, never full nude.

Tom:
Do you have any friends/family that disagree with what you do?

MS:
All my family knows what I do. I didn't want to keep it a secret, because I'm originally from Western Australia, and where I'm from word travels fast and eventually everyone finds out.
It's mainly only my big bosses at work (my day job) that I don't tell.
My family has supported what I do, and they have even advertised me on some occasions to friends for hens parties.

Tom:
Whats some of the craziest things you have seen In your time as a male stripper?

MS:
I had a group of girls start getting naked during my show once, I had no idea why, they must have pre-planned it or something. It was about 10 girls I think, and it sort of just turned into a weird half naked dance party.
I also had a girl bite me so hard on my chest I started bleeding!

Tom:
Bite your chest!? What did you do?

MS:
I pushed her away, packed my stuff up immediately and left, I had to do 5 other shows that night with bandages on my chest.

Tom:
Did they apologise to you?

MS:
The other girls did, but the hen (the girl who bit me) did not, she was really drunk.
I've also heard stories from another guy, who once said he bent over to pick up his costume after his show, and a girl stuck her finger right up his bum!

Tom:
So whats your policy on when girls get very "hands on"?

MS:
2 warnings, they don't get a 3rd.

Tom:
Do you get girls often wanting to engage in sexual contact with you?

MS:
I have had offers, and when they do come on to me, I kind of laugh it off as a joke, as most of the time the girls are very drunk. I'd say 1 or 2 parties out of every 10, there will be a girl wanting to engage sexually.

Tom:
Anything embarrassing happened during a show before?

MS:
I have slipped a couple of times on wet floor tiles, which kind of throws away the shows sexy vibe haha,

Tom:
What costumes do you have?

MS:
Cop, Soldier, Sailor, Fireman, Construction worker, Top Gun, superman/clark kent, doctor.

Tom:
Do you have a girlfriend/partner? If yes what do they think of your job?

MS:
No current partner but I have had girlfriends since I have been doing this.
I find it's always a novelty to begin with, but 6 months in, it becomes the drag on the relationship. Mainly because your always working on the weekends and dancing for other girls instead of spending that quality time with her. Ultimately stripping has always damaged the relationship.

Tom:
Do you intend to keep stripping for much longer?

MS:
It's one of those things that has a limited shelf life. I'll go for as long as I can, but I don't want to be that 'old guy' with photos from 15 years ago haha.

Tom:
Thanks for chatting today mate, it's been good talking to you.

MS:
No worries, my pleasure!

Saturday, January 6, 2018

Happy New Year 2018

It's been a while since I have last updated, and that's been due to my other (more professional) work, which has subsequently caused me to turn down most parties from October to now. However, I'm still here and it's now 2018.

That means I have started this gig 15 years ago in 2003. Back then, I was a shy 21-year-old kid who was terrified at the thought of taking off my clothes in front of a group of girls. I had abs and a good build back then, and I feel quite pleased that I managed to maintain the abs and even added some more muscle in the last 15 years.

My situation has changed drastically though. In 2003 I was a college student living in a small apartment. Besides school, my schedule consisted of stripping, gym, and chasing girls. Getting laid consumed my whole outlook on life.

Now it's 2018. I own my own house (no mortgage - yay!), work all the time, but still spend time in the gym. Instead of chasing girls, I pursue good investments and ways to make more money. I'm also planning retirement, etc. My, how times have changed. Of course I'm not opposed with going after a special interest, but my priorities are much different. I guess that's called getting older.

I still plan on doing parties. I love them (most of them). It's a fun job, and it motivates me to continue conditioning my body. I think without stripping, I would have devolved into a dad-bod state by now.

If I had one major complaint about stripping in the last 15 years, it would be the money. The average pay has not really increased with inflation. In fact, I don't get that much more than I did 15 years ago per party. Some of the companies charge the customers more, but the pay rate is almost the same. Hell, it is the same if you choose the wrong company. A newcomer may not mind this (which is why many companies still underpay), but a veteran definitely would.

Nonetheless, expect this blog to continue into 2018. I have a few more interesting stories to share, and even some from other male strippers. Thank you for reading. I am always humbled that those of you who follow this blog would take your time to read my stuff. As long as there are readers, I will continue writing.

Sunday, October 1, 2017

2017 Recap

The end of the male stripping season is drawing near. October is the last month of the year to offer any substantial stripping work, although there are the occasional odd parties in November and December. Overall, I had a decent year, though my main booking companies have changed.

Fun party from this summer
During my last post, I lamented about a certain company that offers poor service to the customers and shitty pay to the dancers. Well, they don't offer me as much work any more. Occasionally, they'll text me for a show, but I usually turn them down. I suspect there are three possible reasons for the lack of shows from them: 1) They hired a few other guys who'll work for table scraps; 2) They're moving me to the bottom of the list because I turn them down often; 3) Their price tag of $350 is driving the customers to seek other, more affordable competitors (I find this to be the most likely reason). 

Now my bookings have been coming from two smaller companies. They don't quite get the large volume of customers, but they both pay me better and treat the customers right. Therefore, I'm still making about the same amount of money.

As we approach 2018, I'll be entering my 15th year of service in the stripping industry. As long as I pace myself, I think I can squeeze out a couple of more years. The job is still fun as ever, but it takes a toll on the body. I take it easy now and have eased up on the wilder encounters for the moment. Plus, the two companies I mentioned are having me train the rookies.

For you younger guys with a good work ethic, now is a good time to get into the industry. Many companies are having trouble recruiting due to the lack of qualified millenial applicants; most are failing to show up for the initial training, or they're just not cut out for the job. If you have what it takes, competition is not as fierce as it once was.







Saturday, July 8, 2017

Male Strippers Gone Wrong

Bad male strippers give the industry a bad name. They not only give the customers poor service, but they potentially lower future sales because the affected customers warn others away.

Good companies avoid hiring such guys. Yet, it's unavoidable that a few poor candidates slide between the cracks. Even then, these companies will eventually get rid of these guys.

Unfortunately, I work for a company that doesn't give a shit about customer service, because apparently they'll send out any guy to make a sale. Although I won't name the company in question, here's what happened:

Party #1

This bachelorette party hired two dancers. I'm not too happy with this, because I really don't like competing for tips at a private party. Furthermore, I have to worry if the other guy will do something stupid such as try to make out with an unwilling girl.

The girls talked to the other dancer on the previous day. He promised to show up. On the day of the show, he fails to call and show up.

No worries. I show up, perform, and collect my money along with his down payment and his portion of the tips. The girls leave to go to the club, and I leave for my next party. That worked out pretty well!

I inform my agent of this incident. He replies the next day, stating that the dancer showed up later. I said that the girls went straight to the club after my performance. So my agent writes back: "He said he showed up at 3 am. lol"

I sent a text to the girls asking if this was the case. It wasn't. They assured me that the dancer never called or showed up.

So my agent was lying. I wasn't sure why. Perhaps he wants impress the idea that I'm expendable, so he can pay me less for the parties. Some agents like to do that. Too bad it's a tactic that only works on the ignorant.

Party #2

Another bachelorette party a requested two dancers exactly one week after the aforementioned party. Same company with the same shitty customer service.

Expecting another no-show, I text my agent and ask if it was the same dancer as last week. His reply: "No. lol. It's a black guy named Lavonte this time."

We were both booked to perform at 10 pm. I was running late because I had another bachelorette party down the road, so I told them that I would show up at 10:30 instead. My agent knew that I would be late, because he was the one who booked me for the other party down the road.

Just before I showed up, the customer called me and demanded a pic. "I hope you're better looking than this guy. No offence, but he's not what I had in mind when I booked you guys. The website said I would have two muscular blond guys. I picked blond because the bride's soon-to-be husband is blond. Anyway, this guy here is African American, which isn't a problem, but he's short and not even muscular or the least bit good looking. And his show is horrible. Plus, I think he's high on something too."

I assured her that I would try to make things better. Fortunately, Lavonte finished up and left before I showed.

Lavonte: the high, dad-bod stripper
When I arrived, the customer absolutely refused to pay me. She stated that she had already paid $275 online and refused to give another dollar due to Lavonte's abysmal performance.

I did my routine and gave a satisfactory performance, but it was only to receive tip money at this point. The bride and her friends were happy, but they were horrified by Lavonte. They said that his eyes were bloodshot, and his energy levels were low. Halfway through his act, he sat on the couch for a few minutes and vacantly stared at nothing in particular.

They texted me his picture, which I sent to my agent. I spoke to him the next day via phone.

It turned out that Lavonte sent the company one pic of himself with a muscular swimmer's build, which was either an old pic or a fake. My agent seemed surprised, saying that he has never had any complaints about Lavonte before. I highly advised my agent to discontinue Lavonte's services, citing the angry customer complaints from the party. It was so bad that it cost both me and the agent money.

Did my agent listen? Fuck no.

One week later, he booked Lavonte for another party, then asked me to cover it when Lavonte did not contact the customers or answer his phone. Then a week later, I had to cover another party for Lavonte because of the same reasons.

My agent definitely takes a quantity over quality approach to sales.








Thursday, June 1, 2017

Co-Ed Bachelor/Bachelorette Party

Last weekend, I stripped at a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party alongside another charming and beautiful female dancer named Maria. I would write about the experience, but she spared me the effort and chronicled the details of the event on her blog.

Please check her page out here: https://www.mariaroselaveau.com/

She takes takes bookings along the Gulf Coast area, from the Florida Panhandle, Southern Alabama, Mississippi, to New Orleans. She's also very pleasant to talk to and very professional (and carries a very positive attitude about her work), so I highly recommend her.



Here's a video she made of the event: