Stereotypes persist through every facet of life. People make assumptions based on appearances, ethnicity, nationality, income, and demeanor; it's reality and male strippers are no exception. As the saying goes: "Stereotypes exist because they are grounded in truth." Well, I will clarify that when it comes to male stripping, stereotypes are a load of bullshit, and I will debunk the most common one: The stereotype that claims most male strippers are gay.
I have heard this stereotype since the time I had started almost ten years ago until now. Many women at my shows have asked me if I was gay. When I asked them what gave them such an idea, they would respond by saying, "Oh, we just heard that male strippers tend to be gay." I would follow up and ask them where they heard that rumor from, and they would either fail to elaborate or provide me with a vague answer like, "I just heard from people." This concept has about as much merit as the stereotype that all muscular guys work out to compensate for a small penis rather than the obvious and most likely objectives of losing fat or getting in shape. I can't blame these women for their lack of knowledge though. Male dancers exist few and far between, so a shroud of mystery surrounds the profession leaving room for a lot of speculation and assumptions.
Nonetheless, categorizing most male strippers as gay is unrealistic, because one of the main motives for a man to become a male stripper is the thrill of interacting with a lot of women. Of course the easy money offers some temptation, but idea of getting physical with women for money provides a major incentive for straight men everywhere. For example, if I brought a gay man and a straight man into a room full of attractive women and asked them to strip and mingle, then one can conclude that the straight man would do so with much more enthusiasm and desire. If a male stripper were gay, he would have more reason to flock towards gay male audiences since men usually pay more.
Now there are exceptions. Some gay male strippers like to strip for female audiences, but they are so uncommon that they fail to warrant the stereotype that all male strippers are gay. There are also straight guys who strip for a gay audience to increase their pay and amount of work, but their sexual orientation still leans towards women unless they are paid enough to change their minds for a night. Such work is called "gay-for-pay" work. These guys start strip for male audiences,
doing private one-on-one shows, muscle worship sessions, and even doing gay porn. Yet,
these guys have moved beyond the bachelorette or sorority parties full
of women only where the pay is less.
However, when it comes to stripping for female audiences, the majority of applicants will be straight guys, ready to live out their dreams of being the sole object of attention from a throng of eager women. This is evident by the overwhelming amount of straight guys who e-mail me wanting to become male strippers. These guys make up the bulk of what male stripping is about.
As for me, when I first I got into this profession, I did it half for the easy money and half to indulge in my desire to play out my exhibitionist fantasy for women. I wanted to take off my clothes for women and have them grope me, caress me, and admire me. I wanted to excite women to the point where they wanted to seduce me. I found the idea of women treating me like a sex object stimulating, and this job offered me the perfect opportunity to fill in that role. Now if all the women at my parties knew this, they would probably think of me as a pervert instead of asking if I were gay.
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Saturday, October 27, 2012
Navigating This Site
In the past two weeks, I have received a ton of e-mails and questions from guys wanting to become male strippers. Okay, I always receive a lot of e-mail of the sort, but these past two weeks brought a huge influx of them. I had already answered most of these questions in the "Male Stripping Requirements" post. For those who don't know, you can easily navigate there by clicking "FAQ" located on the horizontal tab above this post. Moreover, you can navigate through the pictures and some stories too.
As for stories, I'm taking down "The Raven Haired Girl" for now. She did an internet search on me and found my blog. She browsed through every story, all of the pictures, did the math, and summed up that the Dion on this blog and the Dion that came to her party are the same person. She also didn't like the story about her either and asked if I would take it down, mentioning that I made it sound like porn, so I did. I would ask her to write her own version of the event, but I doubt she would. Besides, her spelling sucks. Sorry Brittany, but it does. That also means no pics of her for you readers (sorry, I tried to ask).
As for stories, I'm taking down "The Raven Haired Girl" for now. She did an internet search on me and found my blog. She browsed through every story, all of the pictures, did the math, and summed up that the Dion on this blog and the Dion that came to her party are the same person. She also didn't like the story about her either and asked if I would take it down, mentioning that I made it sound like porn, so I did. I would ask her to write her own version of the event, but I doubt she would. Besides, her spelling sucks. Sorry Brittany, but it does. That also means no pics of her for you readers (sorry, I tried to ask).
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Advice: Building Yourself
Occasionally, some requests will come my way asking how to get girls. Being the guy that started at the bottom of the totem pole, I try to offer helpful advice in any way I can.
Chance, another male stripper, commented on one of my posts about taking responsibility and building yourself for better. In fact, his comment summed up the reality of getting girls better than anything I can conjure up. Below is the following comment he posted:
Chance made some great points. When I first started stripping, I was just a college student who attended school full-time, lived in an apartment, had little life experience with no other extravagant qualities. Even though I was a young, 21 year old stripper, I wasn't getting even a fraction of them women that approach me now that I'm 31 years old. Throughout the years, I became a teacher, worked in accounting, publishing, etc. I have a good full-time job now, a house, savings, investments, no debt, and even more goals to propel myself forward. It's not just the fact that I have money, assets, and a good life that women find attractive. It's the motivation, drive, aspirations, and the ability to take care of myself that lures them.
Setting goals and standards garnish respect and admiration. When you achieve those goals, set new ones and increase your standards. For example, I still train to further improve my body. I strive to learn more skills to better myself. I constantly improve my house and the condition of my life.
A lot of people refuse to improve themselves, resigning to a fate of mediocrity and sloth. For instance, take the obese guy who refuses to go to the gym, giving up on the prospects of improving his own physical health and appearance. Instead, he goes to the nearest buffet and stuffs himself. Another example lies in the starving artist college student. He takes out a huge student loan and gets a degree in art, creative writing, music, or philosophy, then he finds out he can't do shit with the degree afterwards and whines about needing government handouts because he can't earn any money. What he should have done was learn other skills or trades that would have earned him a spot in the work force. Hell, if it came down to earning money, I would scrub toilets for a living if I had to. What's sad is that a huge number of people promote a lazy attitude when it comes to advancing themselves in life.
So instead of lamenting about what you don't have in life, look for ways to improve yourself. Like Chance said, "if you build it, they will come." This quote not only applies for getting women, but for general success in life.
Chance, another male stripper, commented on one of my posts about taking responsibility and building yourself for better. In fact, his comment summed up the reality of getting girls better than anything I can conjure up. Below is the following comment he posted:
A man becomes attractive to a woman when he is passionate about something. A man must make his life mission his top priority before and above a woman.
This is to say: If you are finding ways to consistently better yourself; women will become attracted to the project in motion, not necessarily the end result.
You can start by doing this many ways:
- Hit the gym (health, physique, confidence)
- Start a business (Money, status)
- Create style in your wardrobe (Status, style)
- Restore an old car to new condition
- etc, etc.
The whole point here is you are doing something that you are passionate about and it will help you grow as a person. More importantly, a woman will see that she is not your top priority and will fight for that position; although subconsciously she doesn't want to be top rung on your ladder.
Poster #1 has a typical loser mentality with "Dion has muscles, so he can get girls with a snap of his fingers". (Shake my head)
This further proves my point. What is Dion doing that you aren't poster #1? He is hitting the gym 3+ times a week as well as watching his diet.
If you knew that muscles attract women, wouldn't you hit the gym as well? No, you wouldn't.
If you knew money attracted women, wouldn't you attempt a business or further your education in hopes of climbing the corporate ladder? Probably not.
I am also a male stripper and can tell you that I am approached 10 fold while stripping because all of my qualities are on display (Muscular, confident, socially adept, money oriented, etc.) - It is not the title of a male stripper that truly turns women on; it is the qualities associated with such a task that make their pussy tingle. Not to mention other girls going crazy for you - women are way more competitive than men.
Bottom Line - Make your mission your priority, not women. If you build it (Yourself), they will come (bitches).
Chance made some great points. When I first started stripping, I was just a college student who attended school full-time, lived in an apartment, had little life experience with no other extravagant qualities. Even though I was a young, 21 year old stripper, I wasn't getting even a fraction of them women that approach me now that I'm 31 years old. Throughout the years, I became a teacher, worked in accounting, publishing, etc. I have a good full-time job now, a house, savings, investments, no debt, and even more goals to propel myself forward. It's not just the fact that I have money, assets, and a good life that women find attractive. It's the motivation, drive, aspirations, and the ability to take care of myself that lures them.
Setting goals and standards garnish respect and admiration. When you achieve those goals, set new ones and increase your standards. For example, I still train to further improve my body. I strive to learn more skills to better myself. I constantly improve my house and the condition of my life.
A lot of people refuse to improve themselves, resigning to a fate of mediocrity and sloth. For instance, take the obese guy who refuses to go to the gym, giving up on the prospects of improving his own physical health and appearance. Instead, he goes to the nearest buffet and stuffs himself. Another example lies in the starving artist college student. He takes out a huge student loan and gets a degree in art, creative writing, music, or philosophy, then he finds out he can't do shit with the degree afterwards and whines about needing government handouts because he can't earn any money. What he should have done was learn other skills or trades that would have earned him a spot in the work force. Hell, if it came down to earning money, I would scrub toilets for a living if I had to. What's sad is that a huge number of people promote a lazy attitude when it comes to advancing themselves in life.
So instead of lamenting about what you don't have in life, look for ways to improve yourself. Like Chance said, "if you build it, they will come." This quote not only applies for getting women, but for general success in life.
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Male vs. Female Stripping
From: Debi Sens
Subject: male stripper questions!
Message:
Hi, I am not sure if you are still accepting questions or not but I have a few.
Does being a male stripper make you think differently towards women? Like, did you become more mysoginistic? I read some female stripper blogs and a few of them admitted it sort of made them not like men as much?
Also if you can answer this do you think there are many differences of experiences between male and female strippers?
Debbie
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My Response:
I would say that male stripping has made me think a little differently toward women, but with a wiser mindset rather than a negative one. I don't think I have become more misogynistic (though some readers would argue otherwise). Most women at my parties treat me exceptionally well, pay me more than necessary, and overall spoil me. Of course, I see a few women who behave rather ill for being married or engaged, but I have also seen just as many carry a remarkable amount of devotion and respect.
Regarding female strippers disliking men as a result of their job, I have also read a few female stripper stories and some of them tend to cast men in a negative role, but that's because those strip clubs where they work tend to attract the seedier types of society. My job proves the contrary. The type of women who hire me tend to be middle to upper class without criminal history or a perverted agenda. I tend to like most of the female clientele I deal with. I have a lot of fun at my parties and often look forward to working them.
As far as differences between male and female strippers, I think they can be quite similar and different at the same time. In my case, stripping only supplements my income. I have an actual full time job while I just strip on the side for extra cash. Many female strippers tend to focus on stripping as their full time job. Moreover, providing amusement and entertainment remain my top priorities at my show, while turning the crowd on comes as a secondary result. Female strippers sexually stimulate their male audience as a top priority, or least that is my perception. Beyond that, male and female strippers dance to music and strip.
Overall, I don't feel as though I sacrifice dignity when stripping for a crowd of females, but gain a sense of empowerment instead. Whereas most men have to work hard to physically interact with women, I get to do so with ease while getting paid.
Dion
Subject: male stripper questions!
Message:
Hi, I am not sure if you are still accepting questions or not but I have a few.
Does being a male stripper make you think differently towards women? Like, did you become more mysoginistic? I read some female stripper blogs and a few of them admitted it sort of made them not like men as much?
Also if you can answer this do you think there are many differences of experiences between male and female strippers?
Debbie
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My Response:
I would say that male stripping has made me think a little differently toward women, but with a wiser mindset rather than a negative one. I don't think I have become more misogynistic (though some readers would argue otherwise). Most women at my parties treat me exceptionally well, pay me more than necessary, and overall spoil me. Of course, I see a few women who behave rather ill for being married or engaged, but I have also seen just as many carry a remarkable amount of devotion and respect.
Regarding female strippers disliking men as a result of their job, I have also read a few female stripper stories and some of them tend to cast men in a negative role, but that's because those strip clubs where they work tend to attract the seedier types of society. My job proves the contrary. The type of women who hire me tend to be middle to upper class without criminal history or a perverted agenda. I tend to like most of the female clientele I deal with. I have a lot of fun at my parties and often look forward to working them.
As far as differences between male and female strippers, I think they can be quite similar and different at the same time. In my case, stripping only supplements my income. I have an actual full time job while I just strip on the side for extra cash. Many female strippers tend to focus on stripping as their full time job. Moreover, providing amusement and entertainment remain my top priorities at my show, while turning the crowd on comes as a secondary result. Female strippers sexually stimulate their male audience as a top priority, or least that is my perception. Beyond that, male and female strippers dance to music and strip.
Overall, I don't feel as though I sacrifice dignity when stripping for a crowd of females, but gain a sense of empowerment instead. Whereas most men have to work hard to physically interact with women, I get to do so with ease while getting paid.
Dion
Monday, September 24, 2012
Party Log: September 22, 2012
Location: Beach Condo on Florida's Panhandle
10 Girls
Bachelorette Party
Requested Costume: Police
The party was originally scheduled for Friday, but the girls shifted it to Saturday due to two of them unable to come down to Florida in time. Lucky for them, I was able to accommodate this change, otherwise they would have been without a stripper. Unfortunately, my performance fell in the range of sub-par. I just wasn't feeling the vibe with this party and perhaps that was due partly to my lack of motivation. I'm going through another phase where I feel burned out on stripping. Overall, I still had some fun since the girls treated me well. Here were the highlights of the party:
- The bachelorette asked me if I had seen the movie, Magic Mike, or read Fifty Shades of Gray. I told her that I had not for either. I have failed to mention this in previously, but many girls at my shows have been asking me these questions recently.
- The bachelorette requested that I make out with one of her friends named Lauren. Lauren was a tall, young blonde girl who reminded me of one of those stuck-up girls in high school due to her bossy attitude and spoiled nature. She had a beautiful face when she wasn't making demands or scowling. The bachelorette told me that Lauren hadn't been laid or had a boyfriend in a long time, and I could easily see why. Nevertheless, I complied with bachelorette's wish and made out with Lauren, who initially objected, but soon acquiesced and even extended the kiss.
- The bachelorette began to feel sick after awhile. The other girls forced alcoholic drinks on her all day, and the over-imbibing was finally catching up. She disappeared into the bathroom in the midst of my performance and that was the last of I had seen of her.
- On my way out, Lauren offered to help me carry my belongings. When she spoke to me, her voice was in a higher pitch than usual. I politely declined, but she walked me to the door and hugged me anyway.
10 Girls
Bachelorette Party
Requested Costume: Police
The party was originally scheduled for Friday, but the girls shifted it to Saturday due to two of them unable to come down to Florida in time. Lucky for them, I was able to accommodate this change, otherwise they would have been without a stripper. Unfortunately, my performance fell in the range of sub-par. I just wasn't feeling the vibe with this party and perhaps that was due partly to my lack of motivation. I'm going through another phase where I feel burned out on stripping. Overall, I still had some fun since the girls treated me well. Here were the highlights of the party:
- The bachelorette asked me if I had seen the movie, Magic Mike, or read Fifty Shades of Gray. I told her that I had not for either. I have failed to mention this in previously, but many girls at my shows have been asking me these questions recently.
- The bachelorette requested that I make out with one of her friends named Lauren. Lauren was a tall, young blonde girl who reminded me of one of those stuck-up girls in high school due to her bossy attitude and spoiled nature. She had a beautiful face when she wasn't making demands or scowling. The bachelorette told me that Lauren hadn't been laid or had a boyfriend in a long time, and I could easily see why. Nevertheless, I complied with bachelorette's wish and made out with Lauren, who initially objected, but soon acquiesced and even extended the kiss.
- The bachelorette began to feel sick after awhile. The other girls forced alcoholic drinks on her all day, and the over-imbibing was finally catching up. She disappeared into the bathroom in the midst of my performance and that was the last of I had seen of her.
- On my way out, Lauren offered to help me carry my belongings. When she spoke to me, her voice was in a higher pitch than usual. I politely declined, but she walked me to the door and hugged me anyway.
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