1. What is it like being a male stripper?
When I'm off work, it's the same as being like everyone else. When I'm working, it's like being a performer. I'm the performer and I have an audience to entertain.
2. How do you get in to shape?
Weight-lifting, cardio, and a healthy diet. I have been fairly consistent on this for the past 14 years.
3. What is the money like?
At the rate I'm working now, it's just bonus money. During college when I was working a few parties a week, the money was pretty decent.
4. What are your women like when you are performing for them?
It depends on the crowd. Each party is different.
5. What is your success rate with women off the stage?
It's roughly the same---I'm still the same person.
6. What do you carry CCW wise?
I often carry a .38 special Smith & Wesson revolver, but lately I've been carrying a Glock 33 (.357 sig).
7. Is it normal for you to get rejected a lot when approaching women or dating?
Of course it's normal. Every girl, just like every guy, has her own personal tastes on which type of guy she likes. My personality or looks are not compatible with every girl out there. Some girls may consider me an ugly douche-bag, and that's fine. If I let the opinion of others bother me so much, then I shouldn't be a male stripper in the first place.
I don't really seek out dates or make such planned "approaches." I talk to everyone with ease. If I happen to talk to an attractive girl, I do so in a manner like I would with anyone else. If I feel a flirty or an intrigued vibe from her, I reciprocate it. I also watch her body language. Body language tells more than words.
8. Do guys that are good at talking to women strike out a lot too? Do guys that are good at talking to girls go through a lot of hardship as well?
I have struck out a lot in my lifetime. In high school, every girl I asked out to the prom rejected me. It was a shitty feeling. However, I learned not to base my happiness on whether or not another girl likes me. What do I whenever I get rejected? Move on. It's always better to find someone who will reciprocate your feelings than to have a lonely, one-sided attraction that goes nowhere.
And here was an e-mail from Omar that had several questions in one:
Hello, my name is Omar and I live in San Diego, CA. Lately...I've been having this crazy idea about becoming a stripper. I heard male strippers earn a lot of money but I am not so sure about this. I am tired of being poor and it hurts my heart looking my mom struggle a lot in this economy. I'm not ready to become a stripper yet but I know I have the talent for that. A special talent I have is that I can move my gluteal muscles...not many people can do it. I go to the gym 6 days a week for 2.5 hours. I'm 6'3" tall, weight 223 lbs, 23 years old, have 18 inch biceps, bulky, racially mixed (Latino, white, Asian), but I'm not ripped. I'm trying very hard on getting ripped and I've lost 15 lbs in 1 month. I don't know if being a stripper in a big city like San Diego will help me gain better dollars. What are your thoughts? What do I need to do? How much money do you think I will end up earning? By the way, I wouldn't mind working in a gay bar...so yeah. Again, I'm not ready for this job because I need to complete two semesters at my university. I will most likely be ready in one year. Any ideas are very welcomed. Thank you for your help. Have a nice day!
Omar, I have some good news and bad news for you. I'll start with the bad news first. Stripping is not going to get you and your family out of poverty. You need to focus on getting a real job that requires skill and has a career ladder. Male stripping has no career ladder, nor is it a steady source of income. Second, moving your glute muscles is fine and dandy and all, but how long do you think that will entertain a crowd for? Ten, maybe fifteen seconds. You'll need more tricks up your sleeve to drag out the next 45 minutes. Third, you may need to get more ripped. One thing that every agent I ever had ask me was if I had visible abs.
Now onto the good news. San Diego may be a good location for stripping. More people tends to equal more work. I don't know how much you'll end up earning, but it may be more than what I make if you're willing to strip at a gay bar. Hell, you can probably even take that a step further and do gay porn. If you have the look, then you can really make bank---it all just depends on how far you're willing to go. I had one agent offer me $1,000 per gig for a one-on-one private show for a guy. If you're willing to do that kind of work, then I reckon you could get rich before long.