Stereotypes persist through every facet of life. People make assumptions based on appearances, ethnicity, nationality, income, and demeanor; it's reality and male strippers are no exception. As the saying goes: "Stereotypes exist because they are grounded in truth." Well, I will clarify that when it comes to male stripping, stereotypes are a load of bullshit, and I will debunk the most common one: The stereotype that claims most male strippers are gay.
I have heard this stereotype since the time I had started almost ten years ago until now. Many women at my shows have asked me if I was gay. When I asked them what gave them such an idea, they would respond by saying, "Oh, we just heard that male strippers tend to be gay." I would follow up and ask them where they heard that rumor from, and they would either fail to elaborate or provide me with a vague answer like, "I just heard from people." This concept has about as much merit as the stereotype that all muscular guys work out to compensate for a small penis rather than the obvious and most likely objectives of losing fat or getting in shape. I can't blame these women for their lack of knowledge though. Male dancers exist few and far between, so a shroud of mystery surrounds the profession leaving room for a lot of speculation and assumptions.
Nonetheless, categorizing most male strippers as gay is unrealistic, because one of the main motives for a man to become a male stripper is the thrill of interacting with a lot of women. Of course the easy money offers some temptation, but idea of getting physical with women for money provides a major incentive for straight men everywhere. For example, if I brought a gay man and a straight man into a room full of attractive women and asked them to strip and mingle, then one can conclude that the straight man would do so with much more enthusiasm and desire. If a male stripper were gay, he would have more reason to flock towards gay male audiences since men usually pay more.
Now there are exceptions. Some gay male strippers like to strip for female audiences, but they are so uncommon that they fail to warrant the stereotype that all male strippers are gay. There are also straight guys who strip for a gay audience to increase their pay and amount of work, but their sexual orientation still leans towards women unless they are paid enough to change their minds for a night. Such work is called "gay-for-pay" work. These guys start strip for male audiences,
doing private one-on-one shows, muscle worship sessions, and even doing gay porn. Yet,
these guys have moved beyond the bachelorette or sorority parties full
of women only where the pay is less.
However, when it comes to stripping for female audiences, the majority of applicants will be straight guys, ready to live out their dreams of being the sole object of attention from a throng of eager women. This is evident by the overwhelming amount of straight guys who e-mail me wanting to become male strippers. These guys make up the bulk of what male stripping is about.
As for me, when I first I got into this profession, I did it half for the easy money and half to indulge in my desire to play out my exhibitionist fantasy for women. I wanted to take off my clothes for women and have them grope me, caress me, and admire me. I wanted to excite women to the point where they wanted to seduce me. I found the idea of women treating me like a sex object stimulating, and this job offered me the perfect opportunity to fill in that role. Now if all the women at my parties knew this, they would probably think of me as a pervert instead of asking if I were gay.