Monday, November 15, 2010

How to Spot a Cheating Whore

Here was an interesting question posted by Anonymous regarding the following stories: Secrets That Women Keep
Have you ever regreted sleeping with any girls that you knew were getting married soon or had boyfriends? You know...kinda out of pity/or feeling bad knowing that he is about to marry this cheater/cumdumpster?

I feel bad for the guys who are marrying or dating such girls. However, these guys are a bit too trusting of their girlfriends, especially when these girls exhibit transparent behavior when cheating. I'll list the cheating girl's top 3 tactics below:

3. Girl ignores texts and phone calls - The cheater will do this while she's "having fun." Afterward, she'll return the call and make up some excuse about how "busy" she was. While a man can't expect his significant other to answer at all times, he can expect that such repetitive behavior shows that she has something better to do with her time...unless the guy is clingy and calls too much.

2. "You're jealous/controlling" - Some women have reason to say such a statement. Some men are jealous and controlling for no good reason. But I've noticed that a lot of women who cheat tend to pull out the "you're controlling" card when their boyfriends confront them on their bullshit. Since every reasonable guy wants to avoid the "jealous" and "controlling" label, he'll instantly become defensive. That's what the cheating girl wants, because now that the guy is busy defending himself, she has successfully diverted the attention away from her bad behavior.

Therefore, this accusation becomes a diversion tactic when the cheater has no real explanation to provide.

1. Sweet talk to cover up something bad - This is the number one downfall for most men, and a tactic that is used often.

During one instance, A girl pulled me away from the party and into a bedroom. She gave me a blowjob for about minute until she felt bad and stopped. I didn't know why. She just mumbled an apology to me and left the bedroom. When I went back to the living room, I heard this girl on the phone with her boyfriend telling him how "wonderful" he was, and how she "loved him to pieces." He fell for it. I was surprised myself, because she never told me that she had a boyfriend.


Overall, I feel bad for honest folks who fall for cheaters. It happens a lot, but the warning signs are often there. For those of you dating a possible cheater, but isn't sure, then I hope this list helps.

10 comments:

  1. Good points !

    And in the case of the girl who cut short the BJ she was giving you, at least she had a change of heart. Seems like her consciense got the best of her. Maybe she learned her lesson and will change her ways. I suspect also that she might have been a little drunk with lowered inhibitions.

    I wonder how many women (married or with boyfriends) do those things when drunk, who otherwise if sober would never do so.

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  2. I'm sure everyone do things drunk that they normally wouldn't do. In that instance though, that girl wanted to do it. If I were her boyfriend, I wouldn't take her back.

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  3. I am sure he never knew it happened and will never know.

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    1. An ex of mine was convinced I didn't know what was going on and that she was good at lying. Buuuut...

      She left a lot of red flags, including #1 and #3. There were also secret phone calls I wasn't supposed to hear; Disappearances at parties followed by a long period of emotional distance (weeks); Projecting of suspicions on me that I might be cheating on her; The irritated way she wanted me to go home on certain nights; Little details about her "past" sexual habits that confirmed her inability to refuse any cock within a 10 mile radius.

      One day I was showing up on short notice when she was hanging out with a "friend" who hurried to leave before I got there, and she was dressed up and made up like a skank, first time I'd ever seen her wear a skirt or that much makeup, and acting real bitchy and unapproachable.

      Claiming to have "kissed" a couple guys (one of which later turned out to be the friend she had over) during the relationship and being all sorry about it didn't help her side of the story very much either.

      One factor delayed the dumping:
      I would miss her cats.

      Just kidding... It wasn't just the cats.

      Unfortunately, I sorta still loved her for some reason, but eventually my contempt for her skanky ways outweighed my irrational love for her and I had a moment of clarity. Spent nearly a whole day sitting outside rubbing my beard going hmmmmmmm and seeing all the obvious things pop out at once like a year-long fog had been lifted. Dump time!

      To this day, I still occasionally miss her cats.

      I gotta say though, were it not for her I wouldn't really appreciate the value of going my own way, and that's not the only thing I learned. She was a compact lesson on bullshit and I gotta be greatful that she had so much to teach on the subject.

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    2. Forgot one very important sign... One time she told me she had a friend who likes it when his girlfriend sleeps with other guys, and asked me how I felt about that. I guess she was hoping I'd say "Yeah I'd love it if you fucked around with other guys."

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    3. No sense in messing around with her. Sounds like that girl was better involved dating a guy who was into swinging. Did she care if you saw other women?

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  4. Men expect their partners to answer their phones all the time.

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    1. No they don't.Women who truly love their men won't hide anything 4rom them

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    2. Of course, men will invade their privacy real easily.

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  5. When in a relationship, no need for that kind of privacy.

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