Unfortunately, this second step is where most men fail. From my observations, most men are really fucking stupid when it comes to having the right attitude. That is why 10% of the male population are fucking 90% of the females. Only 10% have the right attitude while the rest of the 90% are stuck fighting for the scraps. Fortunately for most of these unlucky 90%, you can change attitude over time much easier than you can change looks.
First, let's elaborate on what men and women value:
- For men, the goods are sex. Women who give out this commodity too easily are low-quality women. In other words, few men want to settle down with a "whore" or "slut."
- For women, the goods are affection. Men who give out this commodity too easily are low-quality men. Got that? Being too affectionate from the beginning is the downfall of many men. Women label such men as "saps" or "pussies."
Call me sexist or whatever, but I've noticed that this observation remains constant with the majority of people. Ever wonder why a man-whore gets by better than a slutty girl? Have you noticed that affectionate women fare much better than affectionate men? Yes, it's a double-standard, but it's reality. If you don't like it, then tough shit.
I notice a large amount of overly-affectionate men everywhere I go, especially when it comes to college-aged men. I don't know where they learn to act like pussies; perhaps their moms or other women taught them "how to act" around women. Maybe they watched a lot of movies---such as Scott Pilgrim, Superbad, Revenge of the Nerds, and American Pie---where the pussy protagonist(s) uses his sensitive personality to woo the hot chick at the end of the movie. If you believe in this horseshit, then I've got news for you: Wake up to reality. This ain't Hollywood with a happy ending.
Okay, maybe that's too harsh. You can still act like a pussy and get girls. Emo boys manage to do it once a blue moon. However, acting like a man will benefit you much more in the long run. The question is: How does one act like a man? Most guys think they act like men, but only a few actually do. Remember, it's usually 10% of the men that fuck 90% of the women. Just imagine how many of the other 90% of the male population out there think that they're men... Not so much as they think!
I'm going to give advice that probably seems basic, yet eludes some people out there. First off, here's what not to do:
1.) Fall in love too quickly (in 3 weeks) - Don't do this. You can't truly love someone after knowing them for 2 or 3 weeks. Real love takes awhile. In the situation that you are a sap and fall in love after a week, do yourself a favor and keep that shit to yourself for another few months in the very least. Love in a relationship should be mutual, not one-sided. To remedy this, let a woman show her affection to you first--not the other way around. Once she makes the first step, then you're in.
2.) Eager to impress - So you have a Lotus, a Ducati, a great job, loads of connections, the best clothes/jewelry that money can buy, and all that good shit. Do yourself another favor: Keep it to yourself. If you talk about this shit, then you are bragging, and women will know it right away. And do you know what women label bragging men as? Insecure. That's right. While your buddies may say "Wow dude--you got a Lotus," women will assume that you're insecure. There are a few girls who are impressed by such things, but these women are just as shallow as you are, so expect to be used for your money.
Bragging comes in other forms too. You can brag about how tough you are and how many fights you won, or how you are good friends with the police chief, or how many people think you're cool. Well, if you have to brag about it, then chances are, you're trying to impress. Don't do it. If you really are all that, then a girl will know that through your actions and body language, not words.
3.) Putting on a Front - This is similar to #2. Ever noticed how someone tries to act like something they're not? For instance, take a boy who grew up in the suburbs, but dresses like he's a thug and tells everyone how rough he had it growing up. Seriously? Don't fucking do this.
4.) Trying to compete with other men - Some women like men fighting over them. Don't do this either. I knew one girl who loved having legions of men compete for her affections. When I hung out with her, she would flirt with me like she did with all of her other "guy friends." I would act nonchalant, sometimes flirting, but sometimes not. Then I would talk to other girls. This actually made her jealous. Instead of me competing for her affections, she was competing for mine. I could have slept with her, but instead, I fucked one of her friends who was a lot hotter. Anyway, point of the story---don't compete. Competing is the same as trying too hard to impress. If you're trying to impress a girl too much, then she knows that she has you. And if a girl knows that she has you, then you're too easy.
Well, there is my advice. It's not perfect. It's not guaranteed to get you laid. Yet, if you need some improvements on your game, then maybe some of the points I covered can help. I'll add more to this list as time goes on and I think of something else. Feel free to comment below if you have questions or something that you want to add.
Remember: Attitude and physical appearance goes a long well. If you have these two areas covered, then you're set.